Archive for February, 2008

The Morning After ~ My Three Shows

mike.jpg  Poor Mike.  He should have seen it coming.

Contrary to what Tracy said, the writing was on the other wall.  Joel somehow made sure of that.  I don’t think Mike was that surprised, based on Joel’s past plays.  My reaction?  Stupid.  While Mike appeared to be a strategist, he was too strong of a player to get rid of this early.  What is Joel thinking???  Keep your tribe strong.  Vote threats off when necessary but not a moment earlier. 

We should have known Ozzy would get the immunity idol.  He is Survivor Superman.  I loved seeing him carve out a fake idol and hide it back in the tree.  They didn’t show a close-up, so who knows if someone will buy that it’s the real deal.  But I sure hope so!  I love it when stuff like that happens.  Remember when what’s-her-face from last season tried to play what she thought was an individual immunity idol at tribal council and Jeff just tossed it into the fire?  Hilarious.  And remember when Edgardo, Alex and Mookie from a few seasons back thought they had everything figured out?  And then Dreamz switched sides at Tribal Council?  I loved the looks on their faces.  Love that stuff.  I hope someone finds and plays Ozzy’s fake idol. 

Can’t wait to see what happens next week when they mix things up.  I didn’t hear the word, “merge” so perhaps they are just mingling tribes.  Anyone know?

Lost – “The Constant”
Bizarre, bizarre, bizarre!  Is it just me or is this show creating more questions than answers?  While a lot was revealed during this episode, it was so bizarre that…well, I just don’t really know what to say.  Didn’t I say that last week?

Desmond.  Brother.  Oh, heck.  I seriously don’t know what to type, so I’m going to stop trying.

Instead, I’ll leave you with my Lost-fanatic-friend’s tasty tidbit regarding last week’s episode and Claire.  Remember these details from seasons past?

1. Claire visited a psychic who INSISTED that she must raise the baby herself (remember she is considering adoption). He said that great danger would surround the child if it was raised by anyone else. He kept calling her at home and finally convinced her to adopt his “plan B” which was to get her on a plane to LA to meet “the perfect couple” for her baby. Of course by the end of the episode, Claire and all of us realized that the psychic lied just to get her on the plane that would crash, thus forcing her to raise the child herself.

2.  She was having nightmares about someone taking her baby. In her dream, she chased a little boy through the jungle. She found Locke and he said to her, ” You never should have given him up Claire. Now we all have to pay for it.”

Take that in light of last week’s episode where we learned that Claire didn’t make it off the island and Kate is raising Aaron…Freaky!

American Idol
Yes, I confess.  I also watch American Idol.  I could try to squirm around and say I just keep up with it, but it would be a lie.  I watch it.  I was not suprised to see Jason or Alexandrea go, but what a shocker for Robbie and Alaina!  I thought for sure Kady would be going home.  Her performance was hideous.  My favorites?  David, Michael, Carly, and Ramiele. 

What about you?  Do you watch any of these shows? 


Parent’s University ~ Patience

Kat‘s topic for Parent’s University: Patience.  I loved what truvyne said regarding this topic.  Be sure to check it out.

I only have one child.  She is 19 months old.  I do struggle with patience from time to time, but I’m sure it may be more of a challenge with the addition of more children.  That said, I do have a few tricks up my sleeve from my years of teaching 5th grade.  Oh, pray for elementary teachers!

Perspective:  Routines vs. Rules
In the classroom, I established routines and lots of them.  Morning routine.  Lunchtime routine.  Going to P.E. class routine.  Turning-in-your-papers routine.  You get the idea.  I did this after years of pulling my hair out, so to speak, and being frustrated that things were not going smoothly.  I remembered a book I read during my college education called The First Days of School by Harry Wong.  In it, Wong establishes the idea that some things may be rules while others are simply procedures.  Many teachers get these two mixed up.  A rule might be, “Use kind words to others” while a procedure might be something like, “Enter the classroom quietly.”  You discipline when a student breaks a rule but not necessarily if a procedure is not followed.

For example, on the first day of school, I explained to my beautiful students the procedure for entering the classroom.  And then we practiced.  And then we practiced again.  And then again.  And again.  And…again.  Once it seemed like they finally understood, I expected that procedure to be followed.  If there was a time that the procedure wasn’t followed, instead of totally losing it, we would practice the procedure…again.  I realize this may sound tedious, but it was quite revolutionary.  Because it was no longer a discipline issue, I was able to take the emotion out of it (ie, my impatience) and treat the situation from an objective standpoint. And because I was objective about it, my students were, as well.  They didn’t get defensive about things.  We just practiced the procedure again until they were so tired of it that they decided to do it right from then on.  Of course, I tried to handle these situations with a smile on my face and kindness in my heart.  That helps, too.

I think the same principle can apply to parenting.  Granted, my daughter is very young and her procedures as of now are ones that have to do with things like how we put toys away, etc.  But the idea is the same.  I treat these situations as routines.  It allows me to keep my cool and see things from a more objective point of view.  It’s all about perspective.

There were times, of course, when a routine was or was not followed and discipline did occur.  This happened mainly when bad attitudes arose.  At that point, I followed the school’s policy for student behavior.  The same occurs with my toddler.  If she deliberately does something out of rebellion, we handle things differently.

This may sound ideal, but obviously, when a child asks to go outside for the hundredth, millionth time even though it’s raining or an infant spits up all over you right before you’re heading out the door, all of this nice, pretty perspective goes right out the window.  That’s when I ask God to fill me again with His Holy Spirit.  If I am truly abiding in Him, the fruit should be patience, right?  That’s what the Bible says.

The Great Loss Challenge

I am eating a bowl of cereal right now.  Er, let me rephrase that.  I am eating cereal right now.  (I’m not actually eating the bowl.) The cereal is Special K Vanilla Almond and it is yummy!  On the bottom of the box is the claim, “Lose up to 6 pounds in 2 Weeks” and while I know fad diets don’t produce lasting results, man, is it tempting!

People who look at me wouldn’t probably say I’m overweight.  I hide it well.  But I see myself in pictures and cringe. Is that really my neck?  When did I get that extra chin?  To top it all off, my best friends are super skinny and have given birth to more kids than me.  I really have no excuse.  I know my body type is not the same as theirs.  You’ve probably heard the comparisons of body types and fruit.  Those who tend to add inches to their middles are apples, people with really skinny waists but gain inches around their hips are pears, etc.  I am an apple.  I think my friends are carrots.  My husband recently read an article about weight loss and body type.  It basically said that if you are an apple, even if you lose weight you won’t look like a pear.  You’ll just be a smaller apple.  I’d love to be a smaller apple any day.


I’m not that hung up on my weight.  I’m not that concerned about reaching a certain number on the scale.  I just want to feel better about my body and fit into all of the clothes in my closet from a few years ago.  Oh, and not feel super self-conscious this summer in a swim suit.  I’m not big on diets, but I know it’s going to take some effort to reach my health goals.  I recently read Bob Greene’s latest book, The Best Life Diet.  It seems like the most reasonable approach I have come across.  The basic idea is to step it up a notch when it comes to activity level, wherever that may be, stay hydrated, and eat healthy.  Seems simple enough, right?  Don’t we all know the right answers?  Then why is it so stinking hard to get in shape?

The Plan
I am officially turning the corner today.  (Guess that means I need to get rid of the bag of Cheetos sitting on my counter.)  I know what I need to do.  I just need to do it.  Why, you may ask, am I posting all of this on my blog?  Because I know myself well.  I need accountability.  So, here’s the plan.

Me and whoever else wants to join me…so, possibly just me.

It has been said that it takes at least 21 days to form a new habit.  I’d like to develop the habit of exercise and healthy eating.  I shall call it, (intro cool music and drumroll) The Great Loss Challenge.  We’ll call it this because while some may be interested in losing actual weight, others may focus on loss of inches or fitting into clothes differently.

Every few days for the first 21 days of March, I’ll write a brief post about my progress regarding exercise and nutrition. You pick your own habit that you want to develop and track your progress in the comments of that post.

Personal health, satisfaction, self-worth…the list goes on.

The Great Loss Challenge will start this Saturday, March 1.


Are You In?
If you are already in great shape but are looking to develop another new habit, feel free to jump on the bandwagon. It can be anything – a Bible study habit, a clutter control habit (I’ll do that one next), a character development habit…whatever.  For those of you who read Kat’s blog, yes, the 21 Day Challenge originated from her brilliance. This is the same idea but will focus more on nutrition and exercise.

Let me know if you have any questions, comments or suggestions.

I hope some of you will join me on this journey.  Are you in?

Doh! I’ve Been Tagged!

My friend, Steph S. over at This One Will Be Heard has tagged me for a meme.  So, here it goes!

Seven Weird Things About Me:

1.  I am seriously afraid of sharks even though I live no where near the ocean.
2.  I dislike brushing my teeth.  I only do it because I know I should.
3.  There was a period of time when I would only get out of bed if the clock was on a multiple of five.
4.  I sleep with my fingers tucked in the waist of my pajamas when I sleep on my back.
5.  I rub my feet together if I sleep on my side or stomach.
6.  I don’t like croutons on my salad.  I think they are superfluous.
7.  When I was in Jr. High School, all I listened to was Michael W. Smith, Amy Grant, Sandi Patty, Van Halen, and the Steve Miller Band.

I still don’t know how I feel about tagging people.  I guess if I was going to tag some people today, I would tag:
Amy (right back at ya’)

If your name is listed above and/or you are reading this and want to be tagged, consider yourself tagged.  If not, then I didn’t tag you and we can still be friends.  Have a great day.

Music Monday ~ The Cheesiest of All Cheesy-Cheese Love Songs

My husband is the world’s greatest Peter Cetera fan. I actually did know this when we got married. And I still married him. When I first previewed this video, I actually laughed out loud. Keep in mind, this is before Crest Whitestrips. Wow.

This is for you, Honey.

See everyone else’s picks for this week here.  (Amy, great minds think alike!)

The Dilemma of the “Mega-Church” ~ Part III

I suppose I should sum this up.

I have been thinking about this all week and have read some really interesting posts here and, in light of the Uganda blogger trip, here.  You can find tons of discussion about the church everywhere in the blogosphere.  But here’s my conclusion.

It’s all about Jesus.  Or rather, it should be all about Jesus.

I don’t necessarily want to focus so much on the church we visited and what I wrote about in my last post about this subject.  I’m sure there are really great things going on there.  The children’s wing was awesome and I think it’s FABULOUS that they offer valet parking for single moms.  But let’s keep the main thing the main thing.  It’s about having a relationship with Jesus Christ and living a life of obedience to Him.  Whether you have a church the size of a small city or you have a church that could fit in my living room, if people are being taught and discipled to have a dynamic relationship with Jesus Christ, then who am I to say you are doing it the wrong way?  While I may disagree with having an “entertainment” mentality and the way in which financial resources are spent, I understand why some churches are the way they are.  And while there are flaws in all churches everywhere, that doesn’t mean they aren’t being led of God.   A wise friend told me just this week – there really is no formula.  But there is the Holy Spirit.  If a church is being led of the Holy Spirit, I have to trust that His work is being done. 

But that’s what bothered me so much about the megachurch I visited.  The worship was loud, the video announcements were a turn-off to me, and the whole production feel of the service was definately not my thing.   But really, the thing that stood out the most in my mind is that I don’t remember hearing the name of Jesus said more than once.  My spirit grieved.  I’m sure they have the name of Christ in their mission statement, but I didn’t hear it much on Sunday morning.

One thing I didn’t mention about this church we visited is that they are currently doing a series called, “Think-Be-Do.”  The premise is that before we can live the life we want to live, we must think it first.  This positive thinking then transforms our lives so that we become that person and then, consequently, the actions follow.  This is my understanding of the message based on my one visit.  While I  realize I have not heard the entire series, just based on what I heard, this sounds extremely humanistic.  Where is Jesus?  I may not agree with the way some churches do things, but I could overlook a lot if people were coming to Christ each week and it was obvious He was the center of life at the church.

My understanding of the mandate given by Jesus was not to just preach about godliness, postive thinking, and good, moral living.  He is the only way to the Father.  Not my good life.  Not my good thoughts.  Not my nice smile and friendly manner.  I am, of course, not advocating living immoral lives.  What I’m saying is that I have an uncle who lives a more godly life than some Christians I know, but he does not have a relationship with Jesus.  Is he saved?  I don’t think so, at least not yet.  Moral living apart from a relationship with Christ is just that.  Moral living. 

By definition, I go to what would be considered a megachurch.   We have approximately 2,000 in attendance on a typical Sunday.  But I’ve never thought of my church as a megachurch.  This experience has made me appreciate my pastor and church leadership in a new way.  I sing on the worship team and, consequently, have a somewhat different perspective of what happens on a Sunday morning.  We do have what’s called a production order that spells out what will happen in each service.  But I know that, at any time, our pastor, worship leader, and other church staffers would be willing to scrap it all if the Holy Spirit said otherwise.  And He has.  And they have submitted to His leading.  No matter what our pastor preaches about, it seems to always come down to the person of Jesus.  There is an opportunity at every service to commit your life to Christ and almost every Sunday, people come into the Kingdom of Light.  It makes me tear up just thinking of that.  People coming to know Christ every week.  While I know our church is not perfect and has it’s own set of flaws, I can appreciate that the leadership is humble and submitted to the leading of the Holy Spirit.  They are committed to keeping Christ center.  Because, contrary to the lyrics of a popular children’s song, Jesus is what it’s all about.

I truly don’t want to come off as being judgemental.  That’s not my heart, at all.  I’m just trying to sort through this experience myself.  This is a rather hot topic and I’m interested to know what people think.  Comments?  Thoughts? 

The Morning After ~ Lost…again

Just thinking stuff over when I’m sure there are other things I should be doing.

“Eggtown” maybe because Locke cooked eggs for Ben?  Okay.  A little random.  But I can buy it.


Kate’s son.  Here are some theories.  Maybe Jack is somehow responsible for Claire’s death and therefore can’t bear to see him.  Or maybe he finds out he’s Claire’s half brother and therefore is uncle to poor Aaron and can’t bear to see him.  Or maybe it’s not really Claire’s son but Kate’s son with Sawyer and, therefore, Jack can’t bear to see him.  Hmmm.

Thoughts?  Comments?  Theories?